Dietzville.TV #007: Losing Weight When Your Daughter Is Watching
Since January 1, my husband and I have been following the Trim Healthy Mama lifestyle, and we’ve both lost weight.
But… we’re living out and participating in this eating plan in front of our kids — kids who are hearing every word we say and watching every thing we do.
Because I have a pre-teen age daughter who is watching my every move and listening to my every word, I have to be so, so careful of the things I say — especially about myself.
If she hears me utter phrases like “I’m so fat” or “I look terrible”, she’s going to pick up on that. It’s going to form her thought processes, and eventually, she’ll turn those thoughts on herself.
I don’t want my daughter to grow up believing that she has to look a certain way to love herself and be considered beautiful.
I hope to communicate that message loud and clear to my daughter.
I hope that message is louder than society’s message that skin and bones is beautiful.
Here’s how I’m treading carefully and losing weight while my daughter is watching…
Losing Weight When Your Daughter Is Watching
#1 — It’s not about being skinny.
And it never has been.
I don’t buy society’s lie that I have to be a certain size or shape or look a certain way to be considered beautiful, and I won’t allow my daughter to buy that either.
Skinny DOES NOT equal beauty!
I didn’t want to lose weight because of the number on the scale; I wanted to lose weight because I felt bloated, my skin felt tight, and I felt like I was slowing down.
I wanted to have more energy, to stop feeling bloated, and for my skin to stop feeling tight. There were also other issues, like hypoglycemia and insulin resistance, that I hoped to resolve through THM too! And I have!
Actually, there was a point in my life when I believe I was too skinny. In order to be healthy, I needed to GAIN weight back.
#2 — I tell my daughter the truth.
The truth is simple: My pants don’t fit anymore! LOL
My daughter is a growing almost 11-year-old. She understands what it’s like to outgrow her pants — because she’s STILL growing. But she’s also old enough to know that Mommy isn’t growing.
My daughter also knows that we’re thrifty, resourceful people. We shop at thrift and consignment stores and find stuff on Craigslist. My kids earn money and use that money to buy things that we won’t pay for.
My daughter understands what I mean when I tell her that I’ve outgrown my pants and don’t want to spend money on new ones — that I just want to fit back in to my old pants.
#3 — It’s always about being healthy.
We eat Real Food: organic produce, grass-fed beef, and more. We eat this way because we want to be healthy.
We also communicate that it’s healthy to take a nap when we’re tired or get some sunshine after a day or two cooped up indoors.
Our kids understand that sugar is something we try to avoid for many reasons, even natural sweeteners like honey and maple syrup.
We’ve been having these conversations with our kids for years, and they know that any changes we make to our lifestyle are because our end goal is always to be healthy.
It’s not healthy to not have the stamina to keep up with life. It’s not healthy to not have the energy to go outside and enjoy gardening or hiking. It’s not healthy to struggle to breathe because of excess weight.
So, yes, sometimes weight loss is necessary to get healthier or have more energy.
I don’t need to be a Victoria’s Secret model or be on the cover of a magazine. Loving my body and taking care of it is something I will do no matter what my size!
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